What is the Christian Doormat?

I’m Sherrae Phelps. I am the writer and creator of the blog The Christian Doormat where I discuss ideas around Christianity that wrongly imply that being a good Christian is about being a good doormat. My desire is to talk about virtues and teachings that are often seen as weak and show how and when they are acts of strength, virtue, and integrity.

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Me with my two daughters

On my blog, I focus on creating conversations on virtues and teachings that are often perceived as weak such as meekness, humility, forgiving, patience, obedience, submissiveness, turning the other cheek, mercy, compassion, sacrifice, and the list goes on. There are meanings associated with these virtues that distort the true meaning of what they are and what they are not. 

Twisted truths can support and encourage Christians to be doormats, portraying it as something that is good and noble. These misconceptions of virtues limit an individual’s growth by keeping them weak. If one takes hold of these twisted truths, it will significantly limit their potential, happiness, relationships, and their ability to create goodness in and with their lives.


More about this blog…

I started writing a book over a year ago called “Meek Misunderstandings.” I wanted to write about what meekness is and what it is not. After working on it for nearly a year, I stopped writing that book and started another one. I still wanted to talk about the misconceptions we have about meekness, but the more I wrote, I realized that that was only one small piece of the conversation. It was just meekness that was misunderstood, but also humility, forgiving, patience, obedience, submissiveness, turning the other cheek, mercy, compassion, sacrifice, and the list goes on. That’s when I switched from writing about Meek Misunderstanding to The Christian Doormat.

I just started reading the book Beneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan. In the preface of his book he describes his journey in writing the book which he calls “a novel of biographical and historical fiction that hews closely to what happened to Pino Lella between June 1943 and May 1945.” He flew to Italy to personally interview Pinon Lella. He talked with Holocaust historians in Milan. He interviewed Catholic priests and members of the partisan resistance. He visited every major scene with Pino to get a better understanding of the area and what happened. He consulted with staff at Yad Vashem, Israel’s main Holocaust remembrance and education center. He talked with historians in Italy, Germany, and the United States. He spent weeks in the war archives in those three countries and the United Kingdom. He interviewed the surviving eyewitness that he could find as well as descendants and friends of those long dead. When one contemplates the amount of work that he poured into this single book, it’s no wonder that it took him over a decade to write it. That gave me a new perspective. (Nevermind the fact that Victor Frankl wrote his book “Man’s Search For Meaning” in ninety days.)

I decided to settle in and work on this project and to learn everything I could around my subject. When I initially set out to write this book, I set a goal of writing it in one year. Now the more I get into it, I realize that I have a lot of work and a lot of research to do in order to write the book that I have envisioned.

I created this website to share with others some of my research, resources, and my thoughts and views as I work on this project

One of the unique and valuable resources that this blog has to offer you are the conversations that I have with others as I talk with them and ask them questions, providing for you the transcript or the audio, or both, from those conversations. Some of the audio recordings are unique whereas they are not like a formal a podcast, but almost resemble more of a recorded phone conversation that you have the opportunity to eavesdrop on, so to speak. Some of the podcasts even begin abruptly in the middle of the conversation as though you have just stepped into the room.

If you look closely and compare the audio to the written transcript, you’ll notice that they are not a replica of each other. Most of the transcripts have been heavily edited by myself and by the individuals whom I have interviewed trying to make the transcript more readable, and also viewing our first conversation as our “first draft.”

I hope you enjoy and find something here that is meaningful to you.

–Sherrae Phelps

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