What is the Christian Doormat?

Hi, I’m Sherrae Phelps the writer and creator of the The Christian Doormat blog.

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I created this blog so that I could share with others some of the interviews and resources I gather as I work on writing a book.

The best way to describe the interviews I share is by comparing them to the conversations between Mitch Albom (author of Tuesdays with Morrie) and his University professor, Morrie Schwartz. From time to time I get the opportunity to talk with the “Morries” in my life and ask them questions and listen to their perspectives on different topics. And you have the opportunity to eavesdrop in on those conversations.

More about the Christian Doormat…

Neal A. Maxwell said, “Meekness is both misunderstood and even despised.” I think it is despised because it’s misunderstood. Meekness is seen as something that is weak and is too often synonymous with being a doormat.

Virtues such as meekness, humility, forgiving others, patience, obedience, submissiveness, turning the other cheek, mercy, compassion, sacrifice, have distorted meanings associated with them that make them confusing to understand and undesirable.

When these truths are twisted it encourages Christians to be doormats, portraying it as something that is good and noble. The misconceptions of virtues limit an individual’s growth by keeping them weak. If one takes hold of these twisted truths, it will significantly limit their potential, happiness, relationships, and their ability to create goodness in and with their lives.

Being an individual of strong moral character is not about being a good doormat.


I just started reading the book Beneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan. In the preface of his book he describes his journey in writing the book which he calls “a novel of biographical and historical fiction that hews closely to what happened to Pino Lella between June 1943 and May 1945.”

He flew to Italy to personally interview Pinon Lella. He talked with Holocaust historians in Milan. He interviewed Catholic priests and members of the partisan resistance. He visited every major scene with Pino to get a better understanding of the area and what happened. He consulted with staff at Yad Vashem, Israel’s main Holocaust remembrance and education center. He talked with historians in Italy, Germany, and the United States. He spent weeks in the war archives in those three countries and the United Kingdom. He interviewed the surviving eyewitness that he could find as well as descendants and friends of those long dead. When one contemplates the amount of work that he poured into this single book, it’s no wonder that it took him over a decade to write it.

That gave me a valuable perspective on writing this book. I’ve decided to settle in and work on this project and to learn everything I can about my subject, knowing that it might take 10 years or more. When I initially set out to write this book, I set a goal of writing it in one year.

From time to time I interview others on topics that I’m working on and I make those INTERVIEWS available for others to read or listen to. I compile the RESOURCES that I come across as I’m working on a topic that I want to keep track of and that I found useful. I also share some of MY WRITINGS.

I hope you find something here that is meaningful and valuable to you.

–Sherrae Phelps

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