What is the Christian Doormat?

Hi, I’m Sherrae Phelps the writer and creator of the blog The Christian Doormat.

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Neal A. Maxwell said, “Meekness is both misunderstood and even despised.” I think it is despised because it’s misunderstood. Meekness is seen as something that is weak and is too often synonymous with being a doormat.

Virtues such as meekness, humility, forgiving others, patience, obedience, submissiveness, turning the other cheek, mercy, compassion, sacrifice, have distorted meanings associated with them that make them confusing to understand and undesirable.

When these truths are twisted it encourages Christians to be doormats, portraying it as something that is good and noble. The misconceptions of virtues limit an individual’s growth by keeping them weak. If one takes hold of these twisted truths, it will significantly limit their potential, happiness, relationships, and their ability to create goodness in and with their lives.

Being an individual of strong moral character is not about being a good doormat.

More about this blog…

A few years ago I started writing a book that I titled “The Christian Doormat.” The first draft I trashed. The second was rejected by publishers. I am now on my third attempt.

I just started reading the book Beneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan. In the preface of his book he describes his journey in writing the book which he calls “a novel of biographical and historical fiction that hews closely to what happened to Pino Lella between June 1943 and May 1945.”

He flew to Italy to personally interview Pinon Lella. He talked with Holocaust historians in Milan. He interviewed Catholic priests and members of the partisan resistance. He visited every major scene with Pino to get a better understanding of the area and what happened. He consulted with staff at Yad Vashem, Israel’s main Holocaust remembrance and education center. He talked with historians in Italy, Germany, and the United States. He spent weeks in the war archives in those three countries and the United Kingdom. He interviewed the surviving eyewitness that he could find as well as descendants and friends of those long dead. When one contemplates the amount of work that he poured into this single book, it’s no wonder that it took him over a decade to write it. That gave me a new perspective on writing my book.

I decided to settle in and work on this project and to learn everything I could about my subject. When I initially set out to write this book, I set a goal of writing it in one year. Now the more I get into it, I realize that I have a lot of work and a lot of research to do in order to write the book that I have envisioned.

I created this website so that I could share with others some of my research, resources, and my thoughts and views as I work on this project. The Christian Doormat blog is a different kind of blog. I don’t think “blog” is even the right word for it. I see this “blog” as a writer’s notebook. This is where I organize and store my notes as I work on my book The Christian Doormat. It a combination of interviews, resources, and my writings.

From time to time I interview others on topics that I’m working on and I make those INTERVIEWS available for others to read or listen to. I compile the RESOURCES that I come across as I’m working on a topic that I want to keep track of and that I found useful. I also share some of MY WRITINGS as I work on sections for my book.

I hope you find something here that is meaningful and valuable to you.

–Sherrae Phelps